Birth trauma comes in many guises. When labour doesn’t go according to plan, women can experience disappointment, fear and a feeling of failure. On top of the emotional aspect, there may also be physical damage to the body. Birth trauma can happen at full term, during a miscarriage or any other time during labour and the hours and days following the birth.
Birth trauma can affect the baby as well as the mother. During the time that a baby is in its mother’s womb, it picks up emotions and sensations through the umbilical cord. There may be a particularly difficult entry into the world, via the birth canal or by Caesarian section. All these components may contribute to negative feelings and failure for the mother and baby to bond.
Whilst we may heal physically, trauma is held in the body’s cellular memories and can stay there until it is dealt with. Traumatic cellular memory can last a lifetime. It is held there by energy in our subconscious and until it is released, it continues to remind us in some way or other. There are, however, ways to get through this and make a full recovery.
My Guide To Releasing Birth Trauma
1. Acknowledge That A Trauma Has Occurred
In the whirlwind of excitement and joy at your newborn’s arrival, it’s sometimes hard to recognise that a trauma has taken place. If you are having a hard time coming to terms with a difficult birth, it’s important to take a moment to accept that it happened.
2. Release Guilt, Blame, Resentment And Fear
All of these emotions are draining on the mind, body and soul and will only slow the healing process. This is not a case of brushing them under the carpet and pretending they don’t exist. Revert to point 1 and start again.
3. Write Down Your Feelings And Emotions
Writing can be an excellent way of getting stuck feelings out. Write as if you are telling another person how you feel about things then reflect on what you have written after a few days. Keep writing for as long as you need to.
4. Focus On The Positive
It’s easy to dwell upon negative thoughts but instead, do your best to think about (and write down) all the good things that have happened. What did you learn? How would you have done things differently? What are you grateful for? This will help you and your body recover more quickly.
5. Love Your Baby
This might sound obvious, but if you’ve been through a difficult birth, so has your baby. As you give your baby love and keep him/her close they will heal and in turn, heal you. You are connected through your DNA even after the umbilical cord is cut. Cells talk to cells and keeping your baby close will help in the bonding and healing process for both of you.
6. Get Help
Releasing traumatic cellular memories and free-floating memories (in the case of receiving a general anaesthetic), energetic womb healing and cord cutting can all be done with an experienced ThetaHealer, often in only one or two sessions. Reiki is also an effective yet very gentle way of healing energetically. Similarly, meditation, mindfulness and cognitive behavioural therapy can be effective but usually take a while longer.
Have you experienced a traumatic birth? How did you cope? What strategies did you use? I would love to hear from you. Please leave a comment below, or if it’s too personal, please send me a message via the Contact page.
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Love and blessings
Suz 🌀
Suz McDonald
Holistic Wellbeing Specialist
Suz McDonald is passionate about helping others to heal their past and step onto their spiritual path. She is a certified ThetaHealing® Master/Instructor, Reiki Master/Teacher, sound therapist, yoga teacher and mindfulness coach. She combines these techniques to bring about positive change in your life.
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