How To Feel Less Lonely

Have you ever felt lonely? I am sure the answer to that is, yes. We have all felt loneliness at some point in our lives. As human beings, we need to feel connected to one another. Some of us feel a strong desire to be in the company of others, yet others are happy in their own company. Sometimes, being alone with too much to think about can cause anxiety to build up.

So why is it that some people are happy to be alone but others feel lonely? The feeling of loneliness can come from a time in your past when something happened that made you feel lost, afraid and alone. This can resurface later in life. It can also come from a deep-rooted feeling of not belonging which can live in your very soul. Worrying about what others think of us can also be a reason why we isolate ourselves.

The fact is, we are already connected. Every cell of our bodies, speaks to the cells of everything around us simultaneously. When we feel lonely, this connection is out of balance.

The key is to allow ourselves to feel at peace in the energy of solitude rather than feeling lonely.

How To Be Happy In Solitude

• Distract Yourself. The trick is to change the feeling of loneliness to one of solitude where you are comfortable being alone. Have something to do while you are alone to distract yourself. Take up knitting, painting, listen to music that makes you happy.  Dance! Having an activity to concentrate on will give you a feeling of achievement.
• Acknowledge that you are lonely. Sometimes just accepting the feeling and giving it a name can help you shake it off. By recognising that what you are feeling is loneliness, you can make the decision to change it. It gives you more control of your feelings. It is, however, important not to affirm your loneliness but to take action to change.
• Connect with your fellow humans once in a while. No one can do this for you – you need to reach out and make contact. Even if you find this hard, gently pushing yourself will make you feel more connected and less lonely. If you are shy there are ways of dealing with that too.
• Practice meditation. When you meditate, you bring your attention to the here and now, you find peace within and you breathe more easily.

When you are able to feel happy in your own company and no longer feel lonely you will be amazed at the opportunities that open up for you. Amazingly, when you accept that being alone isn’t so bad, you will find that people call, invite you for coffee or just drop round to say hello. That’s just the way the universe works.

Would You Like Help To Feel Less Lonely?

I work with clients to help them overcome feelings of isolation and loneliness. If you’d like to explore the possibility of working with me to alleviate the anxiety of being alone or the feeling of loneliness, please book a FREE 20-minute call with me to make a plan for getting back to feeling connected. Use the calendar below to book your free call.

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